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OUR STORY

To love and honor Hope and Henry

We were two strangers who quickly became friends, and it all started with a simple coffee date in November 2017 to talk about two of our greatest loves: Hope and Henry. Born just seven weeks apart, our lives were shattered the day we lost our babies, and that day was the first in our new realities. The reality that our babies had died, and somehow we still had to go on. Even though we knew we needed to recover physically and emotionally, there was no guide to doing so. No direction; no clear path. We both asked ourselves and others why there wasn’t more help. Why there wasn’t more specific support. We were far from the first mothers this had happened to, and sadly even further from the last.

 

We both wanted to find a way to honor our children, but also to take steps to ensure no parent felt alone in their grief journey. We talked about things that would have helped us, things that no one would understand unless they had experienced it. We knew it was women like us who would have to do something. With great thought and many tears along the way, we created Hopeful Heart Project, an organization built to provide meaningful resources, support, and healing for parents who have experienced the death of their child. If you are here because you lost a child as well, we are so incredibly sorry.

 

It is because of Hope and Henry that this project was created; our two sweet souls who have forever changed our lives. Because of them we will never be the same, and we have learned the importance of letting ourselves love and putting our hearts to work.

“Some things cannot be fixed; they can only be carried. Grief like yours, love like yours, can only be carried.

 

Survival in grief, even eventually building a new life alongside grief, comes with the willingness to bear witness, both to yourself and to the others who find themselves inside this life they didn’t see coming. Together, we create real hope for ourselves, and for one another. We need each other to survive.

 

I wish this for you: to find the people you belong with, the ones who will see your pain, companion you, hold you close, even as the heavy lifting of grief is yours alone. As hard as they may seem to find at times, your community is out there. Look for them. Collect them. Knit them into a vast flotilla of light that can hold you.”

 

Megan Devine

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